Relationship Failure

The bond between a man and a woman can end abruptly and suddenly. There are always a myriad of reasons on why this event occurs. Some of reasons are infidelity, lack of chemistry with your partner, or a relationship that seems contrived(this means you know you don't love each other but you still insist on continuing). However the reason for failure I'm going to be addressing in Taiwan is a rather prevalent one. That issue will now be referred to as "lack of respect". Which from my perspective is an incredibly serious offense to be committed against any individual.

Before we delve into the calamities of this behavior let us explore what respect means. To be brief respect means giving people the treatment you wish to receive. Treating people as your equal and trusting their opinions. Most significantly is not patronizing an individual person. In Taiwan many relationships either it's same race same country, same race different countries, and different race different countries revolve around this. When respect is not given to an any of the two individuals it is highly unlikely a relationship will not be just a fleeting moment.

However, how serious of a problem is lack of respect on this island? In my opinion it's quite a severe problem. ThIS NOT FOR ALL RELATIONSHIPS but it does indeed account for a large number of them. There is just a total lack of respect. Numerous men and women somehow do not view a relationship as the bonding of two mature individuals that have amorous emotions for each other coming together and sharing a significant portion of their lives. In the perspectives of numerous people they view relationships not as an interdependent relationship but rather a depedent one.

Dependent relationships can be defined as verbally abusing your girlfriend or boyfriend and always demanding them to do things for you. In addition it could also be viewed as expecting an individual to stop their lives so you can fulfill your own selfish agenda. In Taiwan it seems to be a norm. Where men do not view the woman of the relationship as a reliable individual. They in fact just see them more as chattle or property. Taiwanese seem to have this ridiculous that belief that a superior can treat an underling however he or she wishes. For instance a boss hires and employee and he or she then abuses the the employee, they will feel they did nothing wrong because a higher rank individual should have the right to treat his underling however he wants right?

It seems that a lot of men in Taiwan believe they are above women and when a woman enters a relationship he has the right to treat her the way he want. However, that is everything but the truth. Fact of the matter is if you treat you a person with no respect you will anger them. WHich is probably why many people quit their jobs each day. Simple conclusion if you give people shit no matter who they are they won't TOLERATE IT. It's the same wherever you go in the world. Many women I have spoken too have communicated to me the frustration they experience when their man shows utter lack of concern for her feelings. However, when the man experiences pain of any kind the woman must be their to help him. They somehow feel that they are the man and she is the woman so she will listen to him by default and stay loyal. This is absolute rubbish because loyalty and fealty are not preordained. They are EARNED through effort. If you are a miscreant who acts like a consequential pompous jerk towards your woman she will indeed LOATH YOU. The behavior you receive is a like a mirror. If you treat someone well you will see a good reflection(you will get that in return) if you don't then you will most likely get something horrible as a reward.


Furthermore men aren't guilty of this crime numerous women are also equally to blame for their horrible predicament. This does not include all women
but many Taiwanese women also do not respect men. They treat their boyfriends like personal bulters and treat them like a low underling. Whether it be calling them 15 times a day and then getting angry when they're boyfriend wants a little free time. This is not respecting an individual because you are not offering the man his own personal space. Neither are you allowing him to express his personal freedom. A relationship is not suppose be interdepent and recipricol. It is not meant and will never be intended to be similar to the way a master treats his slave. For instance if a man is out and all the sudden a woman calls and yells at him for NO good reason while he is having a night out with his friends, that can be construed as not respecting your partner's free time. In addition it is very selfish and extremely impolite as well.

The stupidity does not end there. Oh it certainly does not. On many occassions when a relationship ends on a bad note one of these two types of men or women would often get upset. In typical idiotic fashion they will attempt to exonerate themselves from wrongdoing then proceed to wonder why the relationship ended on such a bad note. It ended on a sour note because you never respected your partner. You were either too busy treating him like bulter or 3 cent man servant rather than real boyfriend or you were too busy seeing her as just property that should help you fulfill your needs while you have no intentions on aiding her. Fact is no one individual will tolerate mistreatment from anyone. Simple fact is no one will give you respect based on the fact you are a parent, a teacher, an elder, or a superior of any kind. People will only give you the respect when you give it to them.